It easy to get off to myself and not care about how I look. Something that has really been impressed on my mind lately is, "Why do young ladies have to look beautiful?" "Why do girls have to have manners?" "Who says what is boyish and what is feminine" "Why can girls not act, sit and talk like boys?" I have come to the conclusion that having good manners is a gift we give to those who have to look at us. Same with dressing in a neat and beautiful way, it is a gift to those who look at us all day.
Sometimes it is easy to think “Mom will say, 'No,'” or “I’m sure Mom and Dad will have an aversion to____.” But, asking, “What to you think about____? Is it ever appropriate on certain occasions?
Our behavior is a picture of the order, beauty and creation of God. When I was young, I never knew that my dad had particular likes and dislikes about clothing because I really did not care what he thought. All that mattered to me was that I could get all dirty in the garden and nobody would get upset. All that matters is the heart, right? Mrs. Botkin said about what we wear: just please your husband. Do what he likes. And don't worry about everybody else. My mother loves that. Because no matter what group of people a lady walks into she may never fit in. And for a girl all that really matters is that she pleases her father and mother, so long as it does not go into conflict with God's word. Yet, no matter what God provides a lady to wear, if a girl is joyful, confident in the Lord and ready to serve others she will be a more valuable and beautiful than jewels.
“…where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is Liberty” 2 Cor. 3:17